Baby blues is one of the subjects-taboo of motherhood. Yes, you may have already read or heard about it, but many people still don’t know what it is, when I had Leo, I didn’t know what it was that a certain sadness in the early days with the baby at home. So, I decided to write about it in the post “Anguish after giving birth: I had, has a name, it is normal, and passes”, where I told how it was with me (and here also spoke of the different faces of postpartum!). But, I promised more information, and today is the day.
As the topic is serious (although not bad!), I’ve been looking for someone better able to speak with you: is the Darshana Fernanda Siqueira da Silva, a psychologist, who is specializing (and falling) in psychology and Motherhood. The text is clear and super cozy! Worth reading and sharing! In addition to receiving my virtual hug … =)
BABY BLUES OR MATERNAL GRIEF
Let’s imagine the following situation: a woman wished intensely parenting, and planned the whole thing. When you get pregnant, lined her vacation, husband, mother-in-law, dog, of all – that everything happened at the right time. Did yoga, swimming, hiking, studied about childbirth, breastfeeding, postpartum, left frozen food to all be ok in the first month after the baby is born. He was born beautiful, the delivery was exactly as she dreamed of, everyone said your son looked commercial, he was nice and she, a Queen. Imagined?
Now visualize this other situation: the woman wasn’t planning that pregnancy, when he found out it was a scare so large that cried for three days and three nights. She had just lost her job, she lived away from family, barely managed to do prenatal care and that your second pregnancy (the first child was two years old). In addition, this mother spent half of pregnancy chanting the mantra “I can’t believe I’m pregnant”, but later accepted the pregnancy. Your delivery didn’t happen the way she wanted, but it was alright. The baby was as beautiful as the first woman and the older your baby was super happy with the arrival of the little brother.
If I told you that one of those mothers felt sadness and anguish so big in the first few weeks after childbirth, in which you bet on?
In this text I’ll discuss Maternal grief, which is called also of Baby Blues or Postpartum Blues. Considering that this phenomenon affects approximately of 70% of mothers, I’ll present some most common questions and answers about the issue:
What is the baby blues or maternal grief?
He is a whirlwind of feelings. Mothers have a sorrow too large, an anxiety that weighs as much as 15 bags of cement on his back, is a moment that emerge many fears, guilt and sooo crying, even for little things. It is common in baby blues that some women exhibit irritability and sudden mood swings, and you can also experience a sense of being lost themselves, feeling like you don’t recognize anymore, as if it weren’t the same * (which is not far from the truth in many ways).
When the baby blues?
Usually happens soon after childbirth, more specifically between the 3rd and 5th day, i.e. well in that period in which the mothers return to the House, losing the protection of hospital staff and aligned to it, experience the descent of the milk. The famous “hour of let’s see”.
But why so sad all in a moment so beautiful?
Pregnancy is a time when women are hormonal rates through the roof. Soon after childbirth, that roller coaster of hormones drops sharply and this reduction is strongly related to the baby blues. Are the hormones that are linked to production and fall in milk, return of the uterus to the previous size, the whole body recovery and rehabilitation for breastfeeding. Once again, they are the protagonists.
I think valid score that despite of the hormones are responsible for this emotional descompensamento, we cannot disregard the social issues. Being a mother, being a woman is having lots of “check lists” to fill out, and women often fall into that expectation to be supermoms, and this generates a lot of anxieties and frustrations that aligned the whippersnappers of hormones, results in crying and more crying and all those symptoms you mentioned up there.
The baby blues have prevention and treatment?
As you can’t prevent this hormonal difference, all you can do is prepare mother and your family, especially the person closest in this immediate post-partum. This preparation and strengthening the support network must come from the pregnancy, so that if the woman take the baby blues the situation is the least known. It is essential for women at that time around people who treat him with respect, you don’t face the baby blues as freshness, or desperate thinking that the woman is in postpartum depression.
The family must help her mother with nocturnal care with the baby, take care of the baby while the mother sleeps a little or you’re taking a bath, help in household chores so she can be with your baby right now which is so important for the development of the two. These tips are actually beyond the period of the baby blues, it is possible to have a much more peaceful puerperium with a good support network.
How do I know if it’s just baby blues or postpartum depression?
The symptoms are very similar. However, the depression is more common between 3 and 12 weeks after delivery, and the sensations persist normally for more than 3 weeks. Soon after the re-establishment hormonal (by the 15th day after birth), the baby blues must pass naturally.
The baby blues is not a first-time mother thing?
Nanani … nananão! As the baby blues hormones, women can present at all, or no pregnancy. May present only in second or even tenth pregnancy. Is a biological issue, and we need to remember that being sailor first or fifth trip, the Sea (each pregnancy) is never the same. The baby blues is as shown in some texts, such as the TPM: some have others do not, but all we go through hormonal changes, isn’t it?
Remember the two women from the beginning of the text, and my question about who could feel the sadness? His answer remained the same after the information?
I put two very strange examples of pregnancies and maternity histories and we know that there are many more contexts and histories, but when choosing these examples, wanted to show that deep down at the bottom, the sadness is related mainly to maternal hormones. So the two women are susceptible to spending by the baby blues. In fact, all.
We have to make judgments in this moment, because even though the baby blues pass if you don’t treat these mothers with respect (to your body and your time), we can make the postpartum much more difficult than he could be our judgment may affect breastfeeding and increase the burden of guilt that usually is already so large during this period.
I hope I have clarified some points and, if they have questions, comment here on the motherhood fashion to answer! I am very happy to write this text here in the Mother from head to toe, and I hope that, if you like, come and many more …